Anger, it is not a very alien feeling to anyone. Everyone of us has felt it, or maybe we should say, feels it on almost daily basis. But how many of us have really pondered over this feeling ‘Anger’? We always see many people say, “I am short-tempered and I get angered really easily and it’s just the way I am. I can’t help it. Even when I know this and I’ve done numerous efforts, I am totally unable to control my anger.” But a little rightful thinking and a clearer vision about things can help us a lot to control our anger.
Isn’t it true? Let us explain this in some more detail.
Whenever we get angry, it immediately imbalances our mind, the feeling of anger takes over all other feelings and the only thing which drives our thoughts and actions is Anger. Even if we are rightfully angered (when someone is genuinely supposed to be angry), if we get overpowered by this feeling, then we are unable to make right decisions and commit right actions. And it rarely happens that the reason for which we got angry gets solved. Instead, the situation gets even worse and most of the times we end up hurting our loved ones. In the end we are ones who suffer, mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically.
One thing which we want to add here is, it’s not that we should never get angry. Getting angry is a sign of healthy emotional being. If you never get angered, it means that you are an apathetic person who can neither feel passion nor anger.
The key isn’t suppressing your anger, but controlling your anger. Anger is a form of energy which is usually destructive, but if given a right way, can help a person grow in life.
So, whenever you are controlling your anger, you are doing more of a favour to yourself, than to the other person.